You’re the Connector
You’re an organizational powerhouse that loves to bring people together; your friends/co-workers/family feel like they shine their brightest around you. It’s important to you for others to feel heard, and you can often be found striking up deep conversations with acquaintances. Although you have an idea of how you’d like things done (and routinely follow it closely), you welcome input from others and find value in what your circle has to share.
You thrive around people at work, and can bring your team together like no other. When there’s a new face in the office, you’re the perfect one to show them the ropes — after all, you practically invented them!
You’re the life of the party when you socialize! You know exactly what you and your friends like, and you make sure everyone’s happy, whether it’s a monthly spa retreat or a weekly board game night. And if anyone’s facing a crisis, they know that you’ll help them talk through it and figure out a game plan.
You excel in times of conflict — you’re a fantastic peacemaker. Whether it’s a disagreement with a spouse, or among your kids, you can broker peace when no one else can. Just make sure you’re not sacrificing your own needs in the process — your happiness is just as important!
Super Self Care
- Your superpower is your ability to bring out the best in others, but it’s time to bring out the best in yourself, too. Don’t be afraid to schedule time for yourself the same way you would make time for a friend. You deserve to be your own priority.
- Check in with your personal “bill of rights” to make sure that you’re enforcing the boundaries that you need to feel your best. Are you ignoring times when someone has crossed a line? Do you need to come up with some new boundaries at work or with friends? Also assess if there are toxic people in your circle that you need to take some space from. Are there people you’re interacting with regularly that do not make you feel fan-fucking-tastic when you leave their presence? If so, cut them out of your daily life. And I don’t mean by ghosting. Be kind and genuine. Kindness is super underrated and being kind even to people you no longer want in your life is just the right thing to do. But no one toxic deserves a place in your group chat.
- If you love to experience the world with your squad, include self-care in your time with them! Make it a point to connect with those you’re closest to in places outside of parties and bars once in a while. A Saturday hike will be refreshing and rejuvenating for everyone, as will a night in for a movie marathon (sheet masks, anyone?). Nourish your connections with some one-on-one time as well. Fun fact: Birds don’t fly in formation just because it looks pretty to humans admiring them from below. They fly together because doing so conserves energy; the V shape they form makes the whole group more aerodynamic, cutting through the sky with less effort per bird. It also keeps them safe—it’s much harder for larger, predatory birds to take on a flock than it would be to pick off one bird flying solo. Together, in formation, birds are stronger, faster, and go farther. Together with your squad, you can be stronger, too.
Strategies for Stressful Times
- Harness your networking powers to de-stress. Maybe this means booking a girl’s day at the spa or catching up with friends over lattes. You don’t need to be alone to relax and sometimes talking about your day or hearing a friend’s point of view can be the refresh you need. But allow yourself to talk about you, not just listen to everyone else’s drama.
- Know that you are the one that says “yes” or “no” to everything in your life. If you’re saying “yes” so much that it’s becoming detrimental to you, you need to remember your obligation to yourself. Making plans with yourself IS making plans. Just because you’re always the one to drop everything and assist at work, doesn’t mean that has to be your role today. There are ways to say “no” with a smile that are positive, professional, and work in your favor—whether it’s at work, with your family/friends, or your significant other.
- Try to find moments for a little digital detox, especially from social media. Do you really need to be checking Instagram a couple times every hour or getting sucked into a never-ending scrolling session while you’re watching a movie with your partner? Taking breaks from your smartphone will help you be more present in the moment. It will also remind you that YOUR life is the one worth living, not the many other lives you happen to follow on social media. Comparison is the thief of joy!
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